Emails, Texts -What are you saying??

Recently I received a reply message stating that my email "was very thoughtful, and well thought out. It was  as you always do, put such care into your communications with me and everyone else I've known." The recipient  was responding to the words and the tone used in my email replying to his first email. I had responded with great care and some trepidation, not wanting to spar in response. It had come from someone I consider a friend; someone who was going throughout the "dark night of the soul" and was still going through difficult and frankly quite scary times. I knew this person was under doctor's care and wanted this email to be honest and kindly stated. The option to pick up the phone and call was not available; this was our only means of communication at this time.

It got me to thinking…. 

Emails are often read and responded to without any consideration to the tone, and quite frankly, the abbreviated method of text and/or short or overly lengthy emails does not contribute to ensuring the tone meant to be communicated is established. This may be appropriate in a detached and egoless type of read, and maybe this newer generation writing with shorten emails and acronymic texts has it right. I am not so sure.  

With every generation communicating in their learned or newly created trend, the problem is that most communications are filled with one's own personality and attachment to the response, both in the writer and the reader. We don't just read a text or email, we are thinking about how we want to answer, often with a preconceived idea of what is being said or not said. Usually, it isn't the same conversation to either person.

So I read and re-read the email, at different times of the day and in different mindsets to understand and perhaps come to some conclusion - what was this person really saying? What was needing to be heard? What was I reading and reading-into the message? It became more clear that in Living the Available Life, the present moment-to-moment exists in all of our communications. The language and words and tone with which we use to communicate often impact the situation between two people; neither the twain shall meet. 

The conclusion?  All of our responses based on past experience creates an expectation that doesn't necessarily work. To BE in the moment, neutral and without preconceived positive or negative triggers, we allow the Divine to happen - a far more desirable outcome. In the moment, we are connected to all things filled with compassion and love, with communication clear and unencumbered of past experience or self projected future. Living the Available Life is the moment-to-moment allowing, allowing a new and higher vibrational result.

Think back to your past triggered response to written communication from someone whom you wanted to hear, really hear and to understand, even though you thought differently in response…  Kind of gives you second thoughts… Promise yourself to Be Available and to know that communication gets better when in the moment.